Welcome to another “resolution season”. For those of us with a chronic neurological condition, the idea of “New Year, New You” is disillusioning. Our conditions don’t reset at midnight, and our symptoms don’t take a break in January. Still, we’re surrounded by messages that act like everyone has the same starting point.e

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Why typical resolutions fail us

Most resolutions expect us to have control that we simply don’t. “Exercise daily” only works if you’re able to move every day. “Eat clean” assumes you have the energy to shop, prepare, and cook. “Be more social” assumes leaving the house won’t lead to days of recovery.

The real problem is that resolutions focus on results instead of the process. They’re about changing who you are. When you have a chronic illness, the goal isn’t to transform yourself, but to keep moving forward.

Resolutions fail us because they:

• Ignore symptom variability
• Assume linear progress
• Require consistent energy
• Measure success by neurotypical standards.
• Create shame when illness interferes.
• Focus on outcomes we can’t control

The bitter truth is, you can’t resolve to get rid of a neurological condition.

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Try micro-goals

Focus on small, specific actions you can manage, even on the roughest days.

‍Instead of “Get healthy,” try “Take morning meds before checking phone.”

Instead of “Exercise more,” try “Stretch in bed for 2 minutes after waking.”

Instead of “Eat better,” try “Keep protein bars in the nightstand.”

Instead of “Be more organized,” try “Put tomorrow’s meds out before bed.”

Instead of “Reduce stress,” try “Set phone to Do Not Disturb after 8 PM.”

These are things you can manage, even on a hard day or during a flare-up.

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How to build sustainable systems

Systems are helpful when willpower alone isn’t enough. They give you support during times when motivation is low, which is common with chronic illness.

Replace “I’ll take my medication on time,” with “Medication alarm at 9 AM, pills in weekly organizer, backup supply in car, partner knows to remind me if I’m struggling.”

Replace “I’ll pace myself better,” with “Phone timer for activity breaks, energy tracking app, scheduled rest periods, automatic ‘no’ to back-to-back commitments.”

Replace “I’ll advocate for myself at medical appointments,” with “Symptoms logged in app, questions written in advance, friend on standby for support, follow-up scheduled before leaving.”

You don’t have to feel motivated or have lots of energy to use these systems. Just follow the steps you set up for yourself when you were feeling clear-headed.

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How to make goals accessible

Most resolutions tell you to add more to your life. If you have a chronic illness, it’s often better to make small improvements to what you’re already doing.

• “Start meditating.”
  “Use the three minutes waiting for coffee to brew for breathing exercises.”‍
• “Join a gym.”
  “Do PT exercises while watching Netflix.”‍
• “Cook more often.”
  “Buy pre-chopped vegetables.”‍
• "Journal daily.”
  “Choose an emoji for this hour/day and record in phone notes.”

This strategy helps you optimize your daily routines for better results.

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Resolutions that work!

Here’s a list of examples of resolutions that work for people with chronic illnesses.

• “I will rate my energy each morning and plan accordingly.”
• “I will rest before I’m exhausted.”
• “I will do one less thing than I think I can.”
• “I will refill prescriptions when I have 7 days left.”
• “I will schedule follow-ups before leaving appointments.”
• “I will photograph any visible symptoms.”
• “I will respond to texts within 3 days.”
• “I will schedule one video call instead of typing long updates.”
• “I will tell one person when I’m struggling.”
• “I will keep water within arm’s reach.”
• “I will use paper plates during flares.”
• “I will sit for tasks I usually stand for.”

See how it’s not about big changes, but about small steps that make daily life a bit easier to manage.

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Your resolutions should support you, not make things harder. If you’re having trouble deciding what’s realistic or need help building routines that last, your Care Coach can help you make a plan that works. Book a video visit today.

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